Saturday, October 9, 2021

Random Acts of Kindness You Can Do

Some days it seems the world is mired in craziness. Not haha craziness, but really harsh and dangerous nastiness that folks seem hell bent to inflict on each other. 

The Covid pandemic has had a mighty negative effect on all folks, in all countries around the globe. Often it feels overwhelming. Just today, September 22, 2021 we heard the deaths caused through this pandemic have now exceeded the legendary 1918 Spanish ‘flu.

When it was realized that vaccinations would have the potential to save the world from this pandemic horror, developed countries managed to procure vaccine supplies for themselves. But in developing countries COVID-19 ran rampant. They did not have sufficient means of supply and distribution to help their people.

In view of this, you’d think that folks in developed countries would be just lining up to get their life saving vaccinations, as suggested by the scientists responsible for researching and producing them.

But no. This is the time of eagerly listening to misinformation and pure drivel spouted forth by the constant “expert” sharing on social media.

The latest misinformation being peddled is that vaccines have been introduced into salad greens and dressings to ensure that everyone receives a vaccine dose! The tragedy is, there will be millions of folks who will believe it.

In the future there will be studies of these chaotic times. There will be disbelief that families, parents of children even, would prefer to subject each other to illness, hospitalization and death rather than take advantage of a cure that would benefit a whole country.

There will be amazement that politics could influence decisions of health, even though statistics clearly showed more than 90% of hospitalizations were a result of being unvaccinated.

Crazy world. 

At times like this, when everyone is unsettled, trying to get used to “the new normal” nothing feels like the old normal we loved. Maybe I  didn’t always appreciate it enough at the time. Covid-19 lurks at every turn, unfortunately.

But there’s one thing you can always strive to do. Be kind to others. Go out of your way to be kind. Your efforts bring about a warm feeling of joy win your heart when you succeed in helping someone else to enjoy their life just a little more through a random act of kindness.

There aren’t many places I go to these days. I avoid the ferry and public transport as much as possible. I go to the supermarket at 8 a.m, because it’s quieter, with little human contact. 

But the supermarket trip can be turned into an event. Lots of shoppers equal lots of opportunities to find little ways of interacting.

I give a mask smile ( they can only see my impeccable eyebrows) and make a point of saying a “good morning” to everyone that crosses my path. People are visibly taken aback, but always respond positively. You can’t allow masks to deter you from greeting others, or even having a conversation about the emptiness of the shelves these days.

Each week my dearly beloved buys scratch ‘n win lottery tickets for me to give away. Seriously, can you think of a more fun way to give someone hope than by spending a dollar on them? 

I often give the tickets to cashiers, and you’d think I was giving a huge gift. Hopefully it might be! But anyone who looks as though they might be having a not-so-good day is fair game. 

This past week I’ve been picking the last branch of golden delicious apples from my little espaliered tree, packing my little 100-year-old basket full of them and distributing them to neighbourhood homes. People were shocked but delighted to receive them. I was selfishly happy too, knowing I’d had too many in the first place, and that I wouldn’t have to worry about a bear having its sights on the garden!

Image via Vicki Warner

I’ve come to realize through random acts of kindness that everyone you see or meet in everyday life has feelings and needs. In this time of pandemic it just takes a little bit of extra effort to show active kindness towards others. 

Do you believe random acts of kindness can change the world? Do you have some great ideas to share?  Do you pass forward little acts of kindness you’ve received? One way of doing that is to comment here. Every time you do that you’re helping the world.

Saturday, October 2, 2021

No Rockin' Chairs - Just Rockin' On!

When Jennie Darren appeared on Britain’s Got Talent this year she looked like the stereotypical grandma; quite a sweet little thing behind glasses, old lady clothes and with that sort of naive innocence that grandmas spend many years carefully cultivating.  The truth though, stunned and delighted everyone.

You have to say, this is an example of the humour that emerges as one ages. It’s like looking at life from a whole new perspective, and it can only happen by using the knowledge gained after many years ( too many, some would say), to shake up the younger crowd.

It’s their protection, you see, a strategy for getting the best out of life by never revealing the truth behind the properness of that carefully crafted image. The truth of their feelings is often hidden way inside.

The ones you really have to be wary of are those sorta fragile looking, often bookish, gently smiling, always there for you and whoever else crosses their path ones. Watch them. They’re pure danger, with internal cauldrons of fire just waiting to be unleashed like a well-bred volcano.

I see this every week with the knitting ladies who make blankets for charity in our area. Most are quite mature, from a chronological point of view. Once a week they troop sedately into their private space in their library, knitting bags very obvious.

Don’t be fooled. When that door closes they have more fun than almost any other groups you can think of.  The door is soundproof fortunately. You wouldn’t believe the goings on there...

Lately even young folks, sometimes even with their younger babies have taken to joining the group. It’s where the real action is, you see, a chance for them to have a taste of what was seen, heard, and learned in days gone by.  

They get to enjoy the shock value in the humor that the more wicked of these oh-so-demure females express. The scheming, gossiping, laughing, all at high decibels, ( everyone wants to contribute) makes for a heady mix. It’s a sisterhood.

Older women have lived, you see. They remember when there was no technology to speak of. They’ve managed through war, anxiety, many losses, health issues. They show you how to make the best of things, no matter what life hands you.

They use those SEO titles you read on-line as fodder to give them gentle smiles. They know it takes more than 7 Steps to give you a contented life!  But it’s good for a laugh, anyway, even if the guy who wrote it is still “wet behind the ears!”

Bodies don’t look or behave like they used to. But they make the best of it, and reading the obituary column spurs them on to do that. Some even have Fitbits.

Anyway, back to Jennie. She used to sing and travel with the group AC/DC, the only woman who ever sang with them.

Since she appeared on Britain’s got talent 2018 there’s been a huge resurgence in her work. There she is, unmistakably not what the botoxed cookie cutter image of a modern music star should look like. 

It’s easy to forget older women had lives too. Many have been caught wrong-footed because they didn’t grow up with the technology or speed of today. 

They do their best. Sure, in many cases their computer expertise consists of limited Facebook family stuff, and sending emails, but that too should be cause for respect. Without that grandmother, you wouldn’t even be reading this today.

Dinner at grandma’s now often is a wasted silent affair with folks busy on their personal devices at the table. Here’s a news flash - Older women truly hate that! 

If you want to get them riled, just do that. And even when you think you’ve come off best with it, remember they’ll store it in their memory for later, when they’ll joke about you to their friends! 

And then everyone will know what you’re like! Even though they’ll shake your hand politely when they meet you, they’ll be stifling a giggle.

They were educated in all sorts of ways you’ll never have the privilege of knowing. All too often now they’re regarded just with tolerance, but if you have time just to ask one question about their younger lives you’ll discover you’ve unlocked a treasure house of history.

That’s because every older woman is a  walking talking Wikipedia. 

WooHoo to the old ladies!

If you felt this resonated with you, please comment and tell everyone why! There are lots of folks who all have much to say about senior women! Put it in comments, and it’ll be much appreciated!